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Parents' Responsibilities in Divorce

--Jointly tell the children about your decision to separate/divorce.

--Answer questions truthfully. Do not lie.

--Do not substitute gifts for love and time and attention.

--Facilitate visitation by the other parent at regular and predictable times.

--Designate time for the children to spend individually with each parent.

--Periodically discuss with your children their wishes about residence and visitation.

--Actively participate in your children's lives

--Facilitate private communication with each parent by phone/mail/fax etc.

--Encourage your children to understand the importance of maintaining both parental relationships.

--Keep handover times free of inter-parental arguments and hostility.

--Refrain from using your children as messengers between parents.

--Refrain from using your children as hostages, or weapons against your ex- spouse.

--Refrain from asking your children to keep secrets from the other parent.

--Support relationships with both extended families.

--Offer access to a neutral adult (therapist/teacher/pediatrician/rabbi/priest) whose primary interest is the well-being of the children.

--Maintain direct and frequent communication with your ex-spouse on issues affecting the children's' needs and welfare.

--Help your children understand the terms of the divorce agreement, including financial, educational and visitation provisions.

--Do not expose your children to your transient romantic relationships.

--Do not abandon contact with your children under any circumstances.